How to cope with my first dog´s death?does his buddy know hes dead?
My 2 year old norfolk terrier "Coffee" escaped whenever the electric gates opened. We always tried to go get him but he was little stubborn, so our guard usually brought him to us or, coffee would return by himself. It was 9pm and my dad came from work. The electric gate opened and Coffee as usual, escaped. Sultan, our 11 year old german shepherd saw this since they were both in our outdoor area.My dad tried to get Coffee back in but he didnt come, so we hoped the guard would bring him back..but he wasnt nearby (he goes to check on the neighborhood at night, we didnt know that!:( )so, my brother left to our next door neighboor´s party and didnt see Coffee. By then it started drizzling. At about 10 30, it started raining strongly. I was already asleep im only 14.when my brother returned by foot from next door house, he saw Coffee laying in the middle of the road dead! he was infront our neighbor house.since our gates have lots of 12 inch x 6 in spaces, we think our german shepherd saw him. (poor coffee, we think he died as he tried to return home)) he was laying on his side, as if he was asleep. there was no blood, nothing, he just looked asleep. there was only a little thin trail of blood about 3 inches long coming from his mouth. This is our theory: he got under a car for the rain´s protection, and when people from the party left, they didnt know he was under the car and sincehe was asleep, he didnt get enough time to come out of the car and therefore, he got hit. we think the trail of blood is of when he tried to move. OR he got hypothermia, even though it was 20 C. we also think he could have been poisoned by eating, smelling our others neighbor thrash in which poison is added to (but our dog was really smart and besides his doggie food, he only ate junk food.so, he was buried about 50 m from our house in my aunt´s land.knowing his body is nearby makes me feel better. i didnt go to his funeral since it wasnt that type of funeral. he got buried for respect.to me he wasnt a dog.. i loved him as a friend…as a family member. he was always there for me, always wanted me to pet him. i miss him, is as if one part of my heart just isnt there.two months have passed and i cry for him about every week, especially when ive had a bad day and dont have anyone to talk about it(since my friends aren thaat close). whenver i had a bad day i just went to coffee and pet and talked to him.for example today my parents had a discussion and i felt sad, i wanted to pet coffee but i remembered he was no longer there so i saw a video i uploaded to youtube in his memory and began crying. how can i cope with his death?also, do you think our german shepherd saw him since there are small spaces through our gates? im sure he definetely saw him since he barked A LOT at about 11 30 and it was the type of alert he gave us whenever he saw him on the street. i miss him so much i still cry (2 months after his death)he was the most loyal dog ever and im sure i wont find one like him ever again
2 weeks ago
4 Comments on “How to cope with my first dog´s death?does his buddy know hes dead?”
Im sorry you lost your baby. I know it hurts so much.
The one thing I have learned when trying to get over a dog is to get another dog. It works. coffee wouldnt want you to suffer like this. he would want you to go on with your life. Please go get a puppy and share all this love with it.
I cremate my dogs, and have their ashes on the mantle. When I die they will be buried with me
The pain gets less but you will never forget him. I have 4 dogs and one, a cairn terrier rescue has escaped from our yard 3 times. One of his partners , a westie, always barks to try to tell us what has happened. We are now extra careful about making sure the gates are all closed.
I believe that the other dog will and does miss him but in a different way that you or I would grieve. I do not believe the remaining dog is sad… instead just out of sorts because there is a void.
You will start to feel less pain as time goes on. I still feel sad at times for a dog we had to put down 9 years ago. She was a beautiful loyal shepherd and is missed but the death of a pet is just part of life. Feel happy and focus on the remaining dog.
I have had horses die, dogs, cats, and more. The only way that I cope with all of there deaths is that I know that they’re not in any pain or anything like that. I like to think that they are watching me and trying to keep me happy when I start to get sad and miss them. I also had a grate grandma die and I just think that she’s doing the same thing that the animals are doing. I think that when something exciting happens to me that they are all having a party of their own. I started crying just think about them writing this to you. It’s ok to cry sometimes, just try to use my info to help you, see if it works.
Well, the only way i think you can cope is to begin looking at other dogs. I’m fourteen too, my dog Kotar died, and I began working at the humane society with other dogs. Soon after, i ended up with Koa and Iris, and Rocky. They’re amazing dogs! I love them so much. I still miss Kotar, but i LOVE my new dogs. they have really helped me cope with the loss. Try volunteering at a shelter, or looking for another dog. I know it seems hard but it will be less hard than "just" coping, rather than trying. If i were you, i would rather run on shattered glass than just stand in it if you know what i mean.